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I have a feeling that my teenage son is gay. This is keeping me up crying at night. While I don’t have any proof, I just suspect this. He never has a girlfriend or have girls call the house, he is always around other boys. I want to talk to him about this, just don’t know how to approach the subject. I am a church going woman so I am embarrassed about this and don’t know where to turn. What should I do? ~ Embarrased
First thing is first, your son may not be gay. He could be going through what is known as the high school awkward phase. While some boys in high school are studs others are duds. While you may think he is the best looking kid around. He does he look like a nerd, wear thick glasses, play in band, well then he is not the most popular guy in school.
You said something that is a tip off. If your son is gay, he just may have a hard time telling you. If you have ever said anything negative against gays/lesbians or let it be known that it would embarrass you, he will not come running to you with this news. You have to decide if you really truly want to know the answer to this question at this point and time. Are you ready to handle it if the answer is yes?
Prepare yourself for a no or yes answer. I know it may be hard to hear a yes, but would you love him any less? While you may be embarrassed about what other people think, do take your time to educate yourself on gay issues without listening to what other people have to say. There truly are worse things than being gay contrary to some people’s beliefs. Gay or straight that’s your baby, so remember that love and all will work out.
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