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I am Jewish and my girlfriend is not. I couldn’t take her home for Chanukah because my mother would have had a mild bypass and my dad would flip. My girlfriend wants me to come spend Christmas with her and her family, but as a tradition my family spends the day together, does the movie and Chinese food thing. I don’t know what to do. I have been with her for a little over a year, but her not being Jewish is an issue. As you like to say “Oy vey”, any advice would be appreciated!
Dear Oy vey!,
It’s time that you man up and do something about this situation!!
You can bite the bullet and gently let your mother know you will be spending Christmas with your gentile girlfriend, make sure you have your finger ready to dial 911 just in case. Are you ready to fight for your interfaith love? This is a big question, think long and hard. Being Jewish sounds like a big part of your identity.
If you know that you have no intention of getting serious with this woman, what you really need to do is break up with her immediately before you really break her heart. You are a year into this relationship my man, shit or get off the pot! Right now it seems like you are playing and you really aren’t serious about her because she isn’t Jewish. It gives you an out and a way to play until you find a nice Jewish girl to marry. This is sounding like a typical story… for her sake I hope that I am wrong.
Christmas and Chanukah aside, there needs to a conversation with her to let her truly know how you feel about the fact that she is not Jewish. Who knows maybe she even wants to join our crazy fun tribe. Honesty is the best way to handle this situation that includes honesty with yourself.
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